Nobody Ever Leaves You!

“I’m struggling to accept that he left me!”

“He didn’t,” I said.

“He is still there, just further away.”

She insisted: “But he DID leave me; he does not want me anymore!”

I continued: “Once someone is in our life, they will always be there in one way or another."

"If we think they ‘left’ us, that's because we are holding on to a particular form of them - being physically present for us.”

"When this changes too fast, or too soon… we might experience pain, as we make the adjustment.”

"The struggle we experience is actually to accept a change not a loss, and to see the love that's still there, but in a different form.”

"If this happens when we are too young, the pain can be too big to handle - at that time. But we CAN heal from it. Because the truth is: the essence of love never changes in response to changing conditions. Love is UN-conditional.”

"No relationship stays the same forever; relationships are ever-changing: fluid.”

"If we can see that, then we can stop trying to change others, and instead practice our own adaptation to any new situation.”

"We can come to trust that it is just not possible to take love away from us; it lives inside. Love is ours to keep.”

"That is why I say nobody can ever, actually leave us. And we cannot leave them. The only things changing are the distances between us and the forms in which we relate.”