RELATIONAL FLUIDITY
Grow Up Retreat
Freedom & Secure Relating
with Marcos Bina, Li Tadaa & Adam Mads Heindorf
We invite you to a 4-day retreat exploring relationships rooted in conscious love. Relationships that can stand the challenge of change, where we choose love even when it's hard
September 10-13, Denmark
What Is Relational Fluidity?
Relational fluidity isn't a new identity. It's accepting the reality of relationships: we change, and relationships change.
Relational Fluidity = Freedom & Secure Relating
Relational fluidity is the capacity to be fully ourselves in relationships while keeping the heart open as things change.
It means meeting different phases: closeness, distance, shifts in roles or form, without losing yourself, while staying rooted in care, honesty, and connection.
It can look like deep connection in one phase and more space in another.
It's bout building long lasting relationships that can take many forms over time from friendships, lovers, to colleagues, to romantic partners and back to friends. Or trusting a relationship can stay healthy even if the romantic part ends.
Without both security and fluidity, we often feel we must sacrifice ourselves to stay connected. When change comes, anxious or avoidant patterns can take over.
Even when we question traditional structures, we can create new ones with the same rigidity underneath. New agreements still driven by control rather than trust. Fluidity is instead driven by trust to life and by love, but to be healthy, it needs to be grounded in secure attachment.
Otherwise it becomes something we live from the mind, appearing freeing, but avoiding depth and repeating the same patterns.
We stay close to the body and nervous system, so fluidity grows from something real.
It also allows for multiple deep relationships at the same time, whether romantic, sexual, or deep friendships.
To have outer fluidity, it starts with how we relate to ourselves.
Capacity and Window of Tolerance
Fluidity requires capacity.
To allow change, intensity, closeness, or distance, we need to stay present without overwhelm or shutdown.
We work with increasing capacity to hold more of life, sensation, emotion, and relational complexity, while also knowing when to slow down.
Not by pushing, but by moving in and out, regulating, and staying connected as things shift. As capacity grows, fluidity becomes something you can live.
Building Secure Attachment
Security is not a fixed state. It is a practice that leads to more relaxed relating, less drama, and clearer awareness of our patterns.
We learn to regulate, recognize reactions, and come closer to the root of our needs and how they can be met.
Relationships become less about depending on one person or doing everything alone, and more about allowing different people to support different parts of us.
This is what makes fluidity sustainable.
From Whom?
This is for you who believe that healthy relating in many forms is possible but you still find yourself being driven by younger parts in times when it matters.
This is mature work in practice where we give true mirrors of where you are in your journey and key understanding and tools to move forward.
You know your patterns, you see your parts, you might even teach it to others, but you need high level attunement for you to take the next step.
For coaches, facilitators, or people with longer experience of inner work
You don’t need to have done any Grow Up work previously. If you have, this retreat focuses more on adult relating in practice rather than on attachment wounds.
Whether you’re hetero, queer, single, partnered, in a trio, undefined, or curious, this space honors your unique relational path, your timing, and your truth.
How We'll Work (In Practice)
To open up the somatic container of deeper work we need trust and safety. We build this through dance, play and community. “Trauma fun” is part of the Grow Up approach.
We bring depth and play together so the work can be honest, embodied, and alive. The safer the space, the deeper we can go.
This retreat is part of Li’s Grow Up approach for emotional, relational, and spiritual maturity. The foundation is built in the Grow Up Membership Program (GUMP), with retreats offering a deeper immersion over a few days. Growth is an ongoing process, not something that happens in a single weekend.
"Body, mind and spirit they say. Now I get it. NOW I CAN UNDERSTAND MY BODY. Now the mind and spirit tag along. Simple, but not painless.”
-DAVID SUNDVALL
YOUR GUIDES ON THE JOURNEY
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Marcos Bina
FACILITATOR AND BODYWORKER
The main tool Marcos Bina uses at his individual sessions, workshops, and retreats is LOVE. Through loving and compassionate guidance, he will lead you to connect back to your body and to feel your emotions again. His personal mantra is “Love is a way, not a destination”.
As a fluid man, sexuality was always a focus in Marcos’s personal and professional studies. One of his purposes in life is to help men reconnect with their emotions since 2021, Marcos has been leading the course and retreat for men called Travessia. More than 250 men who want to live a healthy masculinity have already attended it. Marcos Bina is a graduate therapist at Tantra, ThetaHealing, Feldenkrais, and Quantum Being, besides being an Engineer and Administrator.Find out more about Marcos
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Li Tadaa
LUST COACH, DANCER & HOLISTIC THERAPIST
With 15 years of experience with somatics, movement, and embodiment.
Li holds a master’s in political science and economics but left the career after living in Moçambique working with Hodi Dance Company. Their knowledge of dance traditions around the globe is combined with the understanding of the nervous system, dance therapy, somatic education, consent work, and meditation.
Through her programs, Li has helped over a thousand people to reconnect with their inner safety, pleasure, happiness. Li is currently finishing her studies to become a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and is in the first year of their family constellation training.
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Adam Mads Heindorf
GUEST TEACHER
Adam is the founder of Adamas, Li's partner, and present-day Alchemist.
Through conscious partnership, spirituality, tantra, and creativity, he explores what it means to live with greater awareness, authenticity, and freedom.
Having journeyed from a long-held gay identity into a more fluid experience of love and sexuality, many of the themes of Relational Fluidity are deeply personal to him.
As a goldsmith, creator, and facilitator, Adam shares his passion for consciousness, creativity, and human transformation.
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Max Mo Katz
RETREAT COORDINATOR
Max is a mover. A movement of dance, theater, yoga, and martial arts, all held in the bosom of the breath. And a dash of unbridled playfulness!He is here to hold space, and to let go. To challenge and to inspire. To be authentic.
For the last 4 years he's been embracing the work of growing up, dvelving into the challenges and growth that comes with a life in intimacy. Learning from and supporting different teachers in Sweden - this time as coordinator.
His current focus is the bridging of indigenous cultures with the "western" world, sharing and listening, with Plants and Animals as the foremost Teachers.
All The Practical Information
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Arrival: Thursday, September 10, 15:00
Departure: Sunday, September 13, 15:00
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The in-person retreat is at Tranekaer Centre - a historic Sugar Factory brimming with charm and a warm, homey atmosphere. Here you’ll find cozy common areas, guest rooms, and an ideal setting for reflection and creative work.
The building is surrounded by a beautiful park with a lake and wooded edges, inviting visitors to relax and linger—both indoors and outdoors. Closer to the retreat you will be able to book to sleep in dorms, double rooms or single rooms.
The retreat center adress:
Slotsgade 76
5953 Tranekær
Langeland
It is possible to get to the center with by public transport: you can take the train to Svendborg, from where you can take a bus to Tranekær Castle.
Rideshare: Closer to the retreat, we will start a WhatsApp group for the participants and the team, where we can communicate about rideshares. If you have free seats in your car, or if you’d like a free seat, let us know there! -
4 days of guided workshops and emotional processes
Accommodation, possible to choose private or shared rooms.
Food - Vegan and vegeterian wholefood homemade by our chef
Communication & emo support offered by my super-friendly team, who will accompany us all through the coming together and afterward for integration.
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Transport
It is possible to get to the center with by public transport: you can take the train to Svendborg, from where you can take a bus to Tranekær Castle.
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In my retreats, I don’t usually follow a clear-cut timeline, I enjoy feeling the group and listening to our needs.
What is a typical day like?
The day unfolds at a calm yet lively pace, alternating between process, interaction, and integration
Morning exercises and light physical activities
Breakfast
Process work involving play, somatic exercises, and relational practices
Lunch
Time in silence for rest, reflection, and personal growth
An afternoon session focused on reflection and connection
Dinner
A quiet evening activity, such as exercise, music, sharing, or reflection
If you need to arrive a little later or leave a little earlier, that’s fine—just let the instructors know in advance
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All participants must have a compatibility call with Li’s team, if you are new to this work, book a call HERE.
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The investment is:
Early bird: €895.
Normal ticket: €995.You will receive a payment link in your email after signing up.
* Can you not afford the retreat? You can apply for financial assistance through Adamas Centre: https://www.tranekaer.dk/legat -
Your spot is precious and held with care.
Because spaces are limited and preparation begins well in advance, the following policy applies:Up to 30 days before the retreat:
You’ll receive a full refund minus a 10% administrative fee.Between 14–29 days before the retreat:
50% of your payment will be refunded, or you may choose to transfer your spot to a future retreat (if available).Less than 14 days before the retreat:
No refund is possible, unless your spot can be filled from a waiting list (in which case, a 20% admin fee will be charged).
If unforeseen circumstances (like illness or emergencies) arise, please reach out , I care about your well-being, and we’ll do our best to find a good solution.
Thank you for understanding the love and logistics that go into holding this space.
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