𝐌𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐬 merging with our partners

Many people believe that true love means merging with our partners. That a real relationship means becoming one and living from that place.

But did you know that merging often is the reason why we need to get away from each other?

Merging feels amazing, but it's not a place we can live from, we need to come back to ourselves.

To feel deeply connected can feel amazing, but when we stay in a union too long, we can easily lose our authenticity. In fear of separation boundaries can become vague and we might stop communicating our needs.

So what does this have to do with Growing Up? When stuck in our childhood needs without knowing how to get them met, we often suffer a lot. Moving out of these patterns brings ease and trust.

Your childhood trauma responses are reenacted when:

• You believe you can only be happy when merged with someone else.

• You feel fear of abandonment when separating from your partner.

• You feel you super connected to your partner one moment and desperate get away from them another moment.

You are emotionally mature and grown up when you:

• Enjoy melting together with your partner but you know life is not all about that.

• You can merge fully with your partner and separate again with ease and trust.

• You find balance in wanting to connect with your partner and wanting your own space and can also give that freedom to your partner.