GROW UP
RELATIONAL FLUIDITY
Building Safe, Playful, and Deep Relationships That Stay Meaningful Over Time
A 4-Day GROW UP Retreat with Marcos Bina & Li
-Building safe, playful, and deep relationships that stay meaningful over time
June 26-29, Sweden - Tögel Art Centre
Dear beloveds,
We, Marcos and Li, are so excited to invite you to Relational Fluidity, a 4-day retreat where we explore how to build relationships rooted in unconditional love. Relationships that can grow stronger through change, where we choose love even when it's hard.
Relational fluidity isn’t a new relationship “identity.” It’s about ACCEPTING THE REALITY OF RELATIONSHIPS - They Change.
Relational Fluidity = Free & Secure Relating
For us, relational fluidity is the capacity to be ourselves fully in relationships, while staying in connection as they change.
It means meeting different phases of a relationship. Closeness, distance, shifts in roles, or changes in form. Without losing yourself, and without losing the connection.
It can look like deep connection and play in one phase, and more space in another. Friends becoming lovers, and later returning to friendship. Or trusting that a relationship can stay healthy, even if the romantic part comes to an end.
In this way, relationships can deepen, expand, or take new directions, while still being rooted in care, honesty, and connection.
It also allows for multiple deep relationships at the same time, whether romantic, sexual, or deep friendships.
For relational fluidity to be healthy and integrated, it needs to be grounded in the practice of building secure attachment.
Otherwise it can easily become something we live from the mind. It can look like openness, but still avoid depth. Or like trying different relational forms, while the same wounds and patterns quietly repeat.
In this work, we stay close to the body and the nervous system, so fluidity grows from something real.
Practicing Secure Relating
Becoming secure is not something we achieve once and for all. It is a practice that, over time, shows up as more relaxed relating, less drama, and a deeper understanding of our patterns.
We learn simple ways to regulate ourselves, to recognize where our reactions come from, and most importantly, to get closer to the root of our needs and how they can be met.
As this grows, relationships become less about depending on one person or doing everything alone. Instead, we learn how different people can support different parts of us, and how we can move more freely between roles in a relationship.
This is what makes fluidity feel grounded and sustainable in real life.
*This retreat is part of Li’s Grow Up body of work on somatics, attachment, and emotional maturity, brought to life in co-creation with Marcos’ grounded presence and years of lived experience in fluid, conscious relationships.
🌀 This retreat is for you if you're ready to:
Build relationships based on unconditional love. To recognize that intensity or drama is not the same as depth, and that distance does not have to mean disconnection.
Understand the difference between acting from old attachment patterns and relating from a more mature and grounded place.
Stay connected in intimacy, even when a relationship does not look exactly how you once imagined it would.
Play with becoming more fluid in gender roles and expression within your relationships, allowing different qualities in you to take space.
Allow your needs to be met in more than one place, and build several meaningful relationships in your life instead of placing everything on one person. This is relevant whether you are monogamous, non-monogamous, or exploring something in between.
Move with change in your relationships, without immediately needing to hold on or move away.
Let go of comparison and competition, and begin to feel how each person can have their own place in your life.
Step Into Love Instead Of Falling Into It!
And Build Meaningful Relationships That Stand The Challenges Of Time
🌱 Healing the pain of Rigid Relating
Most of us didn’t grow up learning how to navigate emotional maturity in relationships.
Society’s norms around relationships can feel narrow and limiting, but even when we try to break free, we often end up creating new boxes of how things should look.
New frameworks, new rules, same rigidity.
We weren’t shown how to adapt as we evolve or how to stay in love while staying in truth.
So we try to control.
And when that doesn’t work, we freeze, cling, perform, shut down, or walk away.
BUT THERE IS ANOTHER WAY
A way where change doesn’t mean disconnection.
Where needs don’t mean neediness.
Where boundaries are beautiful, and love flows more freely when there’s space to breathe.
Where you can create relationship structures that are true for you and are allowed to change over time.
💫 Why we are the ones holding this retreat on Relational Fluidity
A personal story from us, Marcos & Li
This way of relating is not theoretical for us. When Marcos and Li met, there was an immediate and deep connection. The fact that Marcos was gay was not something that needed to be solved. Instead, it opened a curiosity.
What happens if we don’t decide too quickly what this is supposed to be?
They explored closeness in different ways. Emotional, creative, sensual. Without forcing the connection into a fixed role.
Over time, it became clear that what they shared was not a romantic partnership, but something equally meaningful. A kind of soul-level companionship and collaboration.
Later, Adam entered Li’s life. Today he is her partner and the father of their child. What could have created separation instead became an expansion.
Marcos is now part of the family. The connection is still there, even though the form has changed.
For us, this is what relational fluidity looks like in practice. Not that relationships stay the same, but that they don’t have to end when they change.
It has allowed us to stay in connection, to keep love, and to let each relationship take the form that is true over time.
Marcos and I, walked the talk!
WHAT PEOPLE THINK
🌳 OUR TOOLKIT
Deep, Embodied, Transformational
Throughout the retreat, we’ll weave together practices and tools from:
🌿 Somatic Experiencing: to gently release stored tension and come back home to the body
🌿 NARM (NeuroAffective Relational Model): to explore how early attachment patterns still shape your adult relationships and how to shift them
🌿 Family & Systemic Constellation Work: to honor the unique place each person holds in your life and clear unconscious relational entanglements
🌿 Dance & Movement Therapy: to let the body speak what words cannot and to move what’s stuck
🌿 Tantric Principles: to explore presence, polarity, and sacredness of intimacy
🌿 African Spirituality: honoring ancestral wisdom, rhythm, and communal healing through ritual, prayer, and embodiment
Each of these tools offers a different door into healing, insight, and integration so you can relate from a place of wholeness, not wounding.
💫 What we’ll explore:
The many layers of intimacy: Emotional, physical, spiritual, intellectual, and sexual
How to understand and explore your inner fluidity: relationship roles don’t have to be rigid; you can be in your truth, the strong or the sensitive one, the leading or the following, the masculine or the feminine
How to build relationship structures that feel true to who you are in each moment
How to identify your needs, and express them with acceptance and without shame
How to differentiate between acting from unmet childhood needs and showing up from your sovereign adult self
How to grow relationships instead of outgrowing them
Dance to live drums with Celso Paco from Mozambique! Because joy, rhythm, play, and togetherness are essential for deep healing
Why community is vital to a healthy nervous system and long-term emotional resilience
Dance, play, and connection will always be our foundation.
Because healing doesn’t have to be heavy.
It can be joyful, honest, wild, awkward, sacred, and alive.
🌊 This is not just a retreat.
It’s a call to grow up.
To meet yourself and others in truth.
To allow change and still stay connected.
To stop pretending you’re too much or not enough.
To let love evolve without losing yourself.
We would be so honored to walk this path with you.
With love,
Marcos & Li
"Body, mind and spirit they say. Now I get it. NOW I CAN UNDERSTAND MY BODY. Now the mind and spirit tag along.
Simple, but not painless.”
-DAVID SUNDVALL
GUEST TEACHER & COORDINATOR
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Marcos Bina
GUEST TEACHER
FACILITATOR AND BODYWORKERThe main tool Marcos Bina uses at his individual sessions, workshops, and retreats is LOVE. Through loving and compassionate guidance he will lead you to connect back to your body and to feel your emotions again. His personal mantra is “Love is a way, not a destination”.
As a fluid man, sexuality was always a focus in Marcos’s personal and professional studies. One of his purposes in life is to help men to reconnect with their emotions so, since 2021, Marcos has been leading the course and retreat for men called Travessia. More than 250 men who want to live healthy masculinity have already attended to it. Marcos Bina is a graduated therapist at Tantra, ThetaHealing, Feldenkrais, and Quantum Being besides being an Engineer and Administrator.Find more about Marcos
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Luna Lala
EMO SUPPORT
Luna is a trauma informed Embodiement Coach, Cuddle therapist, Masseuse and B2B Facilitator amongst titles.Luna has + 15 years of experience leading and arranging workshops related to personal growth and body awareness.
Currently working with both groups and individuals. And as a undertaker at Fonus.
Luna is known for having an amazing ability to be present and intiutive in the work she does. She creates a safe and nourishing space where she holds and challenges you for the benifit of your own growth.
”My calling is for people to expereince love and connection, expereince their infinte soul and at the same time all the possibilities there is to have a body here on earth”
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Max Mo Katz
RETREAT COORDINATOR
Max is a mover. A movement of dance, theater, yoga, and martial arts, all held in the bosom of the breath. And a dash of unbridled playfulness!He is here to hold space, and to let go. To challenge and to inspire. To be authentic.
For the last 4 years he's been embracing the work of growing up, dvelving into the challenges and growth that comes with a life in intimacy. Learning from and supporting different teachers in Sweden - this time as coordinator.
His current focus is the bridging of indigenous cultures with the "western" world, sharing and listening, with Plants and Animals as the foremost Teachers.
All The Practical Info You’ve Been Looking For 👇
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Arrival: Thrusday, June 26, 12:00. Start 14:00.
Departure: Sunday, June 29, 16:00.
This retreat begins on Thursday, June 26, 2025.
Arrival starts 12:00 to settle in gently. There will be fika available - Bring your own lunch.We’ll officially begin with our Opening Ceremony at 14:00, and we truly hope you can be there then, it’s a precious moment to land together and set the intention of this time.
We’ll stay in shared presence through the whole weekend, until Sunday, June 29.
Our Closing Ceremony will end at 15:00 that day, then we will have a fika and a goodbye. You can count on leaving around 16:00. -
The in-person retreat is at Tögel Art Center - Hallstavik, Sweden - This is a beautiful retreat center by a small river in Hallstavik 1,5h north of Stockholm. Closer to the retreat you will be able to book to sleep in dorms, double rooms or single rooms.
the retreat center adress: Kilvägen 5, 763 91 Hallstavik
It is possible to get to the center with a direct bus from Stockholm University on an SL ticket.
Rideshare: Closer to the retreat, we will start a WhatsApp group for the participants and the team, where we can communicate about rideshares. If you have free seats in your car, or if you’d like a free seat, let us know there! -
4 days of guided workshops and emotional processes
Accommodation, possible to choose private or shared rooms.
Food - Vegan and vegeterian wholefood homemade by our chef
Communication & emo support offered by my super-friendly team, who will accompany us all through the coming together and afterward for integration.
Outdoor Jacuzzi & Fire Ritual on Friday and/or Saturday
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Transport - The retreat center is 100km from Stockholm.
It is possible to take a direct bus from Stockholm University to the center on an SL ticket. -
In my retreats, I don’t usually follow a clear-cut timeline, I enjoy feeling the group and listening to our needs.
Thursday Evening: Opening Ceremony - Fostering Connection and Creating a Brave Space
Friday Day:
Dance and Play
Understanding Addictions as Needs for Love and Connection
Transitioning from Childhood Pleasure to Mature Sexuality
Evening: Group Activity and Gong Bath + Jaccuzi.
Saturday Day:
Exploring Touch & Setting Boundaries
Somatic Trauma Awareness
Exploring Polarity through Conscious Kink
Discovering Sexual Archetypes
Engaging in Shadow Work
Exploring Gender Fluidity
Practicing Energetic Play and Ancient African Lovemaking Rituals
Saturday Evening: Fire Ritual + Play Space
Sunday: Relational Fluidity and Integration. Departure is on 15:00. -
All participants must have a compatibility call with Li’s team, if you are new to this work, book a call HERE.
If you are already in contact with Li then you may apply directly. -
The investment is:
GUMP member: 5500 sek until May 1st.
Early bird: 6900 sek expires May 18.
Normal ticket: 7500 sekYou will receive a payment link in your email after signing up.
* Can you not afford the training?Contact Li to learn about discounts and reduced prices.
There are 2 assistant spots available where you attend for free but is responsible for costs of accommodation and food. -
Your spot is precious and held with care.
Because spaces are limited and preparation begins well in advance, the following policy applies:Up to 30 days before the retreat:
You’ll receive a full refund minus a 10% administrative fee.Between 14–29 days before the retreat:
50% of your payment will be refunded, or you may choose to transfer your spot to a future retreat (if available).Less than 14 days before the retreat:
No refund is possible, unless your spot can be filled from a waiting list (in which case, a 20% admin fee will be charged).
If unforeseen circumstances (like illness or emergencies) arise, please reach out , I care about your well-being, and we’ll do our best to find a good solution.
Thank you for understanding the love and logistics that go into holding this space.
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Are you curious but not sure if this is for you? Check out this recorded workshop that Marcos and I held together on a similar theme, “Pleasure & Fluidity”. Click HERE to watch it!
