How is Being Pregnant Connecting Me Even More to “Growing Up”?
Being a “Grown Up” Also Means Being a Mature Parent
Do you struggle with…
FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)?
Decision‑making?
An inner conflict where different parts of you want different things?
A resistance to “growing up” while another part longs for stability?
Without realizing it, the last ten years of my work on inner development and growing up have pointed me in the same direction: becoming a grown‑up and a mature mother.
These years of teaching attachment and exploring how unmet childhood needs still affect our lives—and ripple into the lives of those around us—have led many people to tell me:
“I wish I had done this work before I had children.”
Because, consciously or not, all unresolved trauma stored in our system will be felt by the next generation, no matter how many parenting books we read.
Understanding this can easily stir up anxiety. But I have good news, too:
Whatever you heal in your nervous system now, however you show up today, breaking old patterns will immediately be felt by your children—whether they are still in your belly, in their teens, or already grown.
Growing Up is the work of finally becoming the age I am, of not being pulled back into old wounds or childhood fantasies. And when that shift happens, everyone around us feels it.
A few weeks ago, I was teaching at Touch & Play, a sex‑positive Contact Improvisation festival in Germany. One might think I’d make the most of playing before giving birth, but you know what?
I’m already peacefully transitioning into the mother.
That Friday evening, I ended up holding another participant’s baby so she could go to the kinky exploration. Instead of chasing stimulation, I felt:
No FOMO
No restlessness
Just peaceful presence, holding the baby and watching the play space through the window.
This is what Growing Up means to me:
To want to be my age
To want to be here and now
To follow the needs of my body and intuition, not my old dopamine‑driven habits or desperate craving for connection.
What does this awaken in you? Let me know HERE.